Underdressing

23 September 2010 by kathleen.

Perhaps you think you are the only one who has ever worn pantyhose under your male business suit.  We call it underdressing.

You are not the first to do so.  If underdressing gives you some satisfaction, that’s great.  Many transgendered people do this; you are not alone.  Are you feeling guilty for doing so?  If you are, go to the nearest toilet, pour all your guilt into it, and flush!  There is simply nothing wrong with this behavior.

I hid my transgender for many years, and I used to underdress sometimes.  The thrill of putting something over on the rest of the world lost its excitement, and in the years just prior to my transition I rarely underdressed.  I know there are good reasons to hide.  If you have to hide, then go ahead and underdress.

The concern is that in your soul you so badly want to be out that you may make accidental “mistakes” and give yourself away.  That might be good, but it would be better for you to choose a time, place and method to come out instead of letting someone accidentally discover you.  Choosing how you come out puts you firmly in control instead of being the victim of an accident.

Love yourself.  Do what you need to do, but choose carefully when and how you do it.

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