How Can You Tell You’re Transsexual?

20 September 2010 by kathleen.

I wish I could tell you how to know for sure, but I can’t.  That’s why I blogged We Didn’t Know a couple of months ago.

For 40 years I was sure I was only a crossdresser. I knew I liked to wear makeup and women’s clothing; I thought that was all there was. In fact, I vehemently denied that transsexualality was a real condition — I was quite convinced it was a fairy tale made up by a money-hungry medical-pharmaceutical establishment.

And now I am one.

Here’s one clue. Go to a transgender event like Esprit, Be-All, or Fantasia Fair. If you can’t stay in girl mode for the whole conference — if you don’t have the energy to put on your wig and makeup by the second or third day — you are probably a crossdresser and not a transsexual. This is not a value judgment, by the way; transsexuals are not in any way better than crossdressers, just different.

I haven’t validated this assertion in any way. I only remember my first trans event, Fantasia Fair in Fall, 2004. I had no problem at all spending the whole week (yes, Fantasia Fair is a whole 7-1/2 days long) in girl mode. Some of those around me, however, showed up in boy mode or partial boy mode (e.g., male clothes plus a wig and lipstick) by mid-week.

From what I’ve seen, identifying who and what you are is one of the most important reasons for going to trans events. Plan now to find a way to get to one yourself next year.

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