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30 August 2010 by kathleen.
This is a follow-up to Part 1, in which I wrote about identifying priorities. Today I am thinking about expectations; specifically, what you might expect a supportive wife to do for you. You know, one of those “If you loved me you would….” traps.
From talking to people (and from reading some of the stories on the internet), it appears that there are some MtF who expect the wife to do their makeup, buy their clothes, style their hair, manicure their nails, etc. In other words, they expect their wife to be a ladies’ maid. This might work once or twice, especially if as a couple they use it as prelude to marital sex.
There are rumored to be women who actually do enjoy feminizing a man. It is undetermined, however, whether such women would actually want to feminize their husbands.
There are certainly service providers that will gladly take your money to make your fantasies come true. Just plug the phrase “school for sissies” into your favorite search engine. If you’re looking for the realization of your forced-feminization or sissification fantasies, those services are a much better place to satisfy your desires than your marriage bed.
From another point of view, if your wife does all those things for you (shopping, hair, nails, makeup), it demonstrates that you aren’t really a woman and aren’t capable of taking care of yourself. For some couples that might be a good thing; it might serve to bind the partners in a dependency relationship.
On the other hand, you as a transgendered person cannot grow into realization of your nature while you are dependent on your wife.
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